Funeral Etiquette: What Not to Say to the Bereaved

Posted on: Sep 21, 2020 Publish By: funerallink
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It is never a great time when you lose someone. Especially if that person is very close to your family and your heart. When it comes to grieving, some people take time to wallow in their emotions. And, that’s okay. Loneliness and acceptance can only be achieved when a person embraces the truth about the loss.

However, if you are visiting the family of the bereaved, there are some things that you must not say as a sign of respect. Be wary as you may cause the bereaved family members’ to feel hurt and angry towards you if you say something along the lines, we are about to mention.

His Death Was Probably for the Best

You’ll never know what the best for someone is, especially if you’re an outsider. No one wants to lose a loved one, saying this would only rip their hearts open for the untimely death. If only human beings are given a choice, death would never be an option. Be sensitive enough, and never say this remark.

Everything Happens for a Reason

What’s worse than being insensitive? Justifying someone’s death is. People wouldn’t want to entertain the thought of death. Just because everyone is doomed to leave this Earth, this doesn’t mean that there’s a more significant reason for it. At this time of grief, rationalization isn’t a great coping mechanism.

At Least, He’ll No Longer Suffer

Death is always unexpected. Although the person has been bedridden for a long time, their death will always be a lonely circumstance. If you think that death is an easy escape for one’s suffering, it is not. We can never tell if the person wanted to have their suffering end, or they still have the desire to push through in life.

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I Know How You Feel

You may have experienced the tragedy of a family loss, but it isn’t respectful to say that you feel the same way as them. Every person’s feelings are valid and unique. The best thing you can do at this moment is to offer a warm hug or a shoulder, especially when the bereaved is expressing her feelings.

You Still Have Time for New Kids/Spouse/Family Member

The last thing a bereaved person can think of is a replacement for who he lost. Every person that we encounter in this world is unique. Plus, the memories one spends with that person is invaluable. Suggesting the bereaved to have his spouse or kid replaced is a very disrespectful thing to say. After all, you can never replace a person when he’s gone.

Now that we’ve discussed some of the most disrespectful things you can say to the bereaved let us always remember this life tip. If you think that you don’t have anything pleasant to say, the best thing you can do is keep mum. There are moments in life when a person needs comforting gestures like a hug, a shoulder, and a listening ear. Sometimes, words aren’t necessary to ease the pain one is feeling.

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