Although one must inevitably vanish from this world, leaving life too soon is a different story. Accidental deaths from unfortunate circumstances like fire, violence, or car circumstances can be too much to grasp. The sudden thought and the involvement of law authorities make such passing harder than it already is. Autopsies may be requested, legal conflicts must be solved, and other processes are completed to identify the underlying causes of deaths.
Such unfortunate tragedies leave families affected, crying in despair, anger, and hurt. If you want to comfort these bereaved families or offer any help, here are some of the things you need to consider.
Asking too many questions or prying into the details of the deaths at hand is a clear sign that you’re only present for the gossip. You’re not there to lend a hand, a crying shoulder, and a reassurance to the bereaved families that their hurt shall pass. It would be best if you remained caring, loving, and not judgmental.
In this society, individuals pass the blame unto the victims like it’s a factor that leads to their death. Don’t be like these persons. These people are only passing judgment and not love to bereaved families. Whatever these victims were wearing, or the crowd they’re in, and the activities they are engrossed with does not dictate what should happen in their lives.
It’s never okay to say, “Things will pass, and you’ll get over this.” Such remarks are disrespectful to the family’s feelings of loss and hurt. The golden rule is, if you don’t have anything good to say to the family, it is better to shut it.
Such accidental deaths don’t have the words to describe the tragedy surrounding it. The best thing you can do is offer them comfort in silence and helping them with the wake’s preparation.
If you think that words aren’t enough to let them feel your care and comfort, the next best thing to do is to provide your aid and service to the bereaved family. During the wake (if the family chooses to have one), offer to help in their preparations. You can help out in the kitchen, household cleaning, and other chores.
When it comes to grieving and loss, the best thing one can do is respect the family’s feelings. When there is no judgement involved, the family can express their emotions to move on later.